Thursday, May 15, 2008
First Massachusetts, Now California
For now, this clears the way for same sex couples to marry. I'm still not sure what happens with the marriages already performed in San Francisco - I've heard to versions, so far. The ruling is the size of an unabridged dictionary and I'm no lawyer.
The other guys have been gathering petitions for a constitutional amendment limiting marriage to one man and one woman. The Guv has already said he won't support it and we're hoping it won't fly. Still, it's one more hurdle.
Still, I'm celebrating on behalf of my son, my GLBT friends, and the state itself.
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
IAB may be quiet for a few days.
Saturday, May 10, 2008
Happy Mother's (or Parent's) Day
This is for the mothers who have sat up all night with sick toddlers in
their arms, wiping up puke laced with Oscar Mayer wieners and cherry
Kool-Aid saying, "It's okay honey, Mommy's here".
Who have sat in rocking chairs for hours on end soothing crying babies who
can't be comforted.
This is for all the mothers who show up at work with
spit-up in their hair and milk stains on their blouses and diapers in their
purse.
For all the mothers who run carpools and make cookies and sew Halloween
costumes. And all the mothers who DON'T.
This is for the mothers who gave birth to babies they'll never see. And the
mothers who took those babies and gave them homes.
This is for the mothers whose priceless art collections are hanging on
their refrigerator doors.
And for all the mothers who froze their buns on metal bleachers at football,
hockey or soccer games instead of watching from the warmth of their cars,
so that when their kids asked, "Did you see me, Mom?" they could say, "Of
course, I wouldn't have missed it for the world," and mean it.
This is for all the mothers who yell at their kids in the grocery store and
swat them in despair when they stomp their feet and scream for ice cream
before dinner. And for all the mothers who count to ten instead, but
realize how child abuse happens.
This is for all the mothers who sat down with their children and explained
all about making babies. And for all the (grand) mothers who wanted to, but
just couldn't find the words.
This is for all the mothers who go hungry, so their children can eat.
For all the mothers who read "Goodnight, Moon" twice a night for a year.
And then read it again. "Just one more time."
This is for all the mothers who taught their children to tie their
shoelaces before they started school. And for all the mothers who opted for
Velcro instead.
This is for all the mothers who teach their sons to cook and their
daughters to sink a jump shot.
This is for every mother whose head turns automatically when a little voice
calls "Mom?" in a crowd, even though they know their own offspring are at
home -- or even away at college.
This is for all the mothers who sent their kids to school with stomach
aches, assuring them they'd be just FINE once they got there, only to get
calls from the school nurse an hour later asking them to please pick them
up. Right away.
This is for mothers whose children have gone astray, who can't find the
words to reach them.
For all the mothers who bite their lips until they bleed when their 14 year
olds dye their hair green.
For all the mothers of the victims of recent school shootings, and the
mothers of those who did the shooting.
For the mothers of the survivors, and the mothers who sat in front of their
TVs in horror, hugging their child who just came home from school, safely.
This is for all the mothers who taught their children to be peaceful, and
now pray they come home safely from a war.
What makes a good Mother anyway?
Is it patience? Compassion? Broad hips? The ability to nurse a baby, cook
dinner, and sew a button on a shirt, all at the same time?
Or is it in her heart? Is it the ache you feel when you watch your son or
daughter disappear down the street, walking to school alone for the very
first time?
The jolt that takes you from sleep to dread, from bed to crib at 2 A.M.
to put your hand on the back of a sleeping baby?
The panic, years later, that comes again at 2 A.M. when you just want to
hear their key in the door and know they are safe again in your home?
Or the need to flee from wherever you are and hug your child when you hear
news of a fire, a car accident, a child dying?
The emotions of motherhood are universal and so our thoughts are for young
mothers stumbling through diaper changes and sleep deprivation...
And mature mothers learning to let go.
For working mothers and stay-at-home mothers.
Single mothers and married mothers.
Mothers with money, mothers without.
This is for you all. For all of us.
Hang in there. In the end we can only do the best we can.
Tell them every day that we love them. And pray.

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Friday, May 09, 2008
Giant Sinkhole
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Even more horrifying sinkholes may be found at :
http://there-was-an-old-woman.blogspot.com/2008/01/nightmare-large.html
If you accessed the url and viewed the photos, you may understand my nightmarish fear of the phenomenon.
When in north Africa I experienced my first earthquake and immediately determined that I preferred terra firma to terra jello. I didn't like it at all. South Texas has had a few very minor quakes in the historical past but none in my lifetime, so the experience was foreign to me. The Californians laughed at us Texans and Louisianans for our alarm but I don't think they were as blase as they pretended.
However, not even the quakes instilled the horror in me that sinkholes do. I am terrified of them. To me, the earth beneath our feet is supposed to be solid and supporting, and I feel very betrayed that it can collapse underneath us.
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The Future Was Yesterday said... I thought Texas WAS a giant sinkhole? :) The first time the earth shook for me is none of your business, but the first earthquake I ever experienced, was in California. Tornado's you can hide from. Hurricane's you have a week to run away from. Screw those earthquakes! You have no where to go but straight down, and I'm getting there fast enough on my own!!
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Worried American said... I heard that!! The quake I experienced in north Africa did a lot of damage to native cinder block and brick/mud brick houses and walls, bridges, etc.. Expatriate houses were prefab units shipped in from Canada and they just bounced a little on their foundations, dishes rattled and stuff fell from walls. Nevertheless the experience wasn't pleasant. As each aftershock occurred we could hear them coming like supersonic trains rumbling through the rock subsurface, then shake, shake, shake! Brrr!
When touring California, especially Hwy #1 along the coast, quakes were ever in my mind and I was quite relieved to escape that lovely state without meeting a quake. Watching the TV coverage of their quakes was sufficient for me. California relatives threw up to me about our devastating hurricanes but I argued just as you stated - hurricanes you can run from, quakes you cannot. I am aggrieved to find via history on the internet that our apparently stable foundations under Texas can betray us also.
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Granny said... Could it be they've done too much drilling?
As for the Coast Highway, it doesn't need an earthquake to drop off into the ocean. It does that nicely all by itself every once in a while.
I drove it from Mendocino to Marin County and promised myself never again. I used to drive it south to Monterey sometimes but even that was scary.
I loved the Hwy@1 in California - so very beautiful!! We stopped so much to admire the scenery that it took us 2 days to travel from San Francisco to Los Angeles in spite of my fears.
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David G said... Do they have giant sinkholes in Texas? Are they likely to occur under ranches belonging to retarded Presidents?
I can but hope.
Cheers.- Yes, David, there are sinkholes, some quite large in Texas. Especially where there is linestone/karst underpinnings with caves whose roofs collapse. Also salt domes which may be the culprit in the Daisetta sinkhole. Some sinks occur when water washes away soil beneath the surface. But I don't think there are any large enough to take down an entire ranch. Most ranches involve considerable acreages in Texas. Too bad. Nice thought, though. :-)
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Thursday, May 08, 2008
Is America Burning Cuss-O-Meter Rating

Created by OnePlusYou
Just for the hell of it, I ran the Cuss-O-Meter on one of Worried's personal blogs and got this namby-pamby rating for it:

Created by OnePlusYou
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The Beltway B@stard said... I broke the Cuss-O-Meter. It won't work right for anyone. :)
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Worried American said... You must be one of those virtuoso cussers The Gadfly mentioned. A Olympic Gold Medal Cusser!
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Granny said... I'll have to check it out on "granny" and see what it says about me.
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Granny said... I came in at 0.7%. I don't remember ever cussing over there but I must have done at some point. I usually save all that for swearing at the computer.
- WA: Cuss-O-Meter must count hells, darns and damns, and maybe the sh*ts, etc.
It is a good thing there is no Cuss-O-Meter hooked up to our computers during usage. Probably break the thing as it registered far off the scale - like The Beltway B@stard said he did on his blogs. My! My!, the things we do say to our computers!
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The Future Was Yesterday said... I've came to the distressing conclusion that there are far too many people cusstarded..(:
- WA: Cusstarded, indeed! :-)
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Granny said... I've been looking back through my archives and did find an occasional "damn" and a "good Lord".
I lost most of my pictures when the computer crashed (my fault for not saving them) so I've been picking them up from my blog archives.
Of course I guess some are gone forever. I sure can't find them anywhere.
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Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Politics
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Politics
A little boy goes to his Dad and asked, "Dad, what's politics?"
Dad says, "Well son, let me try to explain it this way: I'm the breadwinner of the family, so let's call me capitalism. Your Mom, she's the administrator of the money, so well call her the Government. We're here to take care of your needs, so we'll call you the people. The nanny, we'll consider her the Working Class. And your baby brother, we'll call him the Future. Now, think about that and see if that makes sense,"
So the little boy goes off to bed thinking about what dad had said. Later that night, he hears his baby brother crying, so he gets up to check on him. He finds that the baby has severely soiled his diaper. So the little boy goes to his parents room and finds his mother sound asleep. Not wanting to wake her, he goes to the nannys room. Finding the door locked, he peeks in the keyhole and sees his father in bed with the nanny. He gives up and goes back to bed.
The next morning, the little boy says to his father, "Dad, I think I understand the concept of politics now." The father says, "Good son, tell me in your own words what you think politics is all about." The little boy replies, "Well, while Capitalism is screwing the Working Class, the Government is sound asleep, the People are being ignored and the Future is in deep shit."
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The Future Was Yesterday said... "The Wild Child, is having surgery today. "
Not good, not good..(: Tell the OW a prayer's been sent on her and the WC's behalf. I woulda lit them a candle, but I'm not allowed to play with fire.-
Granny said... I'll be thinking about WA and Wild Child. Hope all goes well.
WA: Thank you for your support. I'm glad to say The Wild Child came through surgery just fine. She will have to wear a girdle-like contraption for 6 mos to a year and will be sent home with round-the-clock nursing for awhile. After that, in-home nurse visits for an indeterminate length of time, plus her daily home care Provider. She's in good spirits and is optimistic. She is still scheduled for numerous medical visits with eye doc, renal specialist, dietician (for special diet she must be on for liver and renal problems), et al.
Gadfly, I wasn't offline as long as you expected, but you're not in trouble. :-) I appreciate your filling in.
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Monday, May 05, 2008
The Fundamentalist Agenda.
Ingrid
for this link: Future Was Yesterday, This is For You ]........................................
http://www.uuworld.org/2004/01/feature2.html
The Fundamentalist Agenda
By Davidson Loehr
The most famous definition of fundamentalism is H. L. Mencken's: a terrible, pervasive fear that someone, somewhere, is having fun. There's something to this. Fundamentalism is too fearful, too restrictive, too lacking in faith to provide a home for the human spirit to soar or for human societies to blossom.
But there are far more fundamental things to understand about fundamentalism, especially in this age of terrorism. An adequate understanding also includes some inescapable and uncomfortable critiques of America's cultural liberalism of the last four decades. The attacks on September 11, 2001, provided us a rare revelation about fundamentalism that arrived in two installments.
First, we became vividly aware of the things some Muslim fundamentalists hate about our culture:
- They hate liberated women and all that symbolizes them. They hate it when women compete with men in the workplace, when they decide when or whether they will bear children, when they show the independence of getting abortions. They hate changes in laws that previously gave men more power over women.
- They hate the wide range of sexual orientations and lifestyles that have always characterized human societies. They hate homosexuality.
- They hate individual freedoms that allow people to stray from the rigid sort of truth they want to constrain all people. They hate individual rights that let others slough off their simple certainties.
Not much was really new in this installment of the revelation. We had seen all this before, when Khomeini's Muslim fundamentalists wreaked such havoc in Iran starting in 1979. We have long known that Muslim fundamentalism is a mortal enemy of freedom and democracy.
The surprise second installment came just a few days after 9 / 11 in that remarkably unguarded interview on The 700 Club when the Rev. Jerry Falwell told Pat Robertson, “I really believe that the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle, the ACLU, People for the American Way—all of them who have tried to secularize America—I point the finger in their face and say, 'You helped this happen.'” These men are so media-savvy it's amazing they would say such things on the air. But it's also remarkable because in their list of “causes” of the 9 / 11 attacks, we heard almost exactly the same hate list:
- They hate liberated women who don't follow orders, who get abortions when they want them, who threaten or laugh at some men's arrogant pretensions to rule them.
- They hate the wide range of sexual orientations that have always characterized human societies. They would force the country to conform to a fantasy image of two married heterosexual parents where the husband works and the wife stays home with the children—even when that describes fewer than 25 percent of current American families.
- They hate individual freedoms that let people stray from the one simple set of truths they want imposed on all in our country. Robertson has been on record for a long time saying that democracy isn't a fit form of government unless it is run by his kind of fundamentalist Christians.
Together, the two installments make vivid the fact that “our” Christian fundamentalists have the same hate list as “their” Muslim fundamentalists.
From 1988 to 1993, the American Academy of Arts and Sciences sponsored an interdisciplinary study known as The Fundamentalism Project, the largest such study ever done. More than 100 scholars from all over the world took part, reporting on every imaginable kind of fundamentalism. And what they discovered was that the agenda of all fundamentalist movements in the world is virtually identical, regardless of religion or culture.
They identified five characteristics shared by virtually all fundamentalisms. The fundamentalists' agenda starts with insistence that their rules must be made to apply to all people, and to all areas of life. There can be no separation of church and state, or of public and private areas of life. The rigid rules of God—and they never doubt that they and only they have got these right—must become the law of the land. Pat Robertson, again, has said that just as Supreme Court justices place a hand on the Bible and swear to uphold the Constitution, so they should also place a hand on the Constitution and swear to uphold the Bible. In Khomeini's Iran, and in the recent Taliban rule of Afghanistan, we saw how brutal and bloody this looks in real time.
The second agenda item is really at the top of the list, and it's vulgarly simple: Men are on top. Men are bigger and stronger, and they rule not only through physical strength but also and more importantly through their influence on the laws and rules of the land. Men set the boundaries. Men define the norms, and men enforce them. They also define women, and they define them through narrowly conceived biological functions. Women are to be supportive wives, mothers, and homemakers.
A third item follows from the others. (Indeed each part of the fundamentalist agenda is necessarily interlocked, and needs every other part to survive.) Since there is only one right picture of the world, one right set of beliefs, and one right set of roles for men, women, and children, it is imperative that this picture and these rules be communicated precisely to the next generation. Therefore, fundamentalists must control education by controlling textbooks and teaching styles, deciding what may and may not be taught.
Fourth, fundamentalists spurn the modern, and want to return to a nostalgic vision of a golden age that never really existed. Several of the scholars observed a strong and deep resemblance between fundamentalism and fascism. Both have almost identical agendas. Men are on top, women are subservient, there is one rigid set of rules, with police and military might to enforce them, and education is tightly controlled by the state. One scholar suggested that it's helpful to understand fundamentalism as religious fascism, and fascism as political fundamentalism. The phrase “overcoming the modern” is a fascist slogan dating back to at least 1941. [WA: Political fascism is now a reality in the USA. Religious fascism is well on its way to equal power.]
The fifth point is the most abstract, though it's foundational. Fundamentalists deny history in a radical and idiosyncratic way. Fundamentalists know as well or better than anybody that culture shapes everything it touches: The times we live in color how we think, what we value, and the kind of people we become. Fundamentalists agree on the perverseness of modern American society: the air of permissiveness and narcissism, individual rights unbalanced by responsibilities, sex divorced from commitment, and so on. What they don't want to see is the way culture colored the era when their scriptures were created.
Good biblical scholarship begins by studying the cultural situation when scriptures were written in search of their original intent, so that we can better discern what messages they may still have that are relevant for our lives. But if fundamentalists were to admit that their own scriptures are as culturally conditioned as everything else, they would lose the foundation of their certainties. Some scholars see evidence that St. Paul, for instance, had severe personal hang-ups about sex that may account for his harsh teachings about homosexuality and women. Many biblical scholars treat some of Paul's teachings as rants rather than revelations. But for fundamentalists, their scriptures fell straight from heaven in a leather-bound book, every jot and tittle intact.
Except for the illustrations I've added in laying out the agenda that the Fundamentalism Project discovered, you can't tell what religion, culture, or century I'm describing. The scholars discovered this a dozen years ago while they were presenting abstracts of their papers. Several noted that all their papers were sounding alike, reporting on “species” when studying the “genus” was called for, that there were strong family resemblances between all fundamentalisms, even when the religions had had no contact, no way to influence each other.
The only way all fundamentalisms can have the same agenda is if the agenda preceded all the religions. And it did. Fundamentalist behaviors are familiar because we've all seen them so many times. These men are acting the role of “alpha males” who define the boundaries of their group's territory and the norms and behaviors that define members of their in-group. These are the behaviors of territorial species in which males are stronger than females. In biological terms, these are the characteristic behaviors of sexually dimorphous territorial animals. Males set and enforce the rules, females obey the males and raise the children; there is a clear separation between the in-group and the out-group. The in-group is protected; outsiders are expelled or fought.
It is easier to account for this set of behavioral biases as part of the common evolutionary heritage of our species than to argue that it is simply a monumental coincidence that the social and behavioral agendas of all fundamentalisms and fascisms are essentially identical.
What conservatives are conserving is the biological default setting of our species, which has strong family resemblances to the default setting of thousands of other species. This means that when fundamentalists say they are obeying the word of God, they have severely understated the authority for their position. The real authority behind this behavioral scheme is millions of years older than all the religions and all the gods there have ever been. It is the picture of life that gave birth to most of the gods as its projected champions.
Fundamentalism is absolutely natural, ancient, powerful—and inadequate. It's a means of structuring relationships that evolved when we lived in troops of 150 or less. But in the modern world, it's completely incapable of the nuance or flexibility needed to structure humane societies.
Fundamentalism's conservative impulse wants stability in societies. Liberal impulses serve to give us not stability but civility: humanity. They do this by expanding the definitions of our inherited territorial categories. The essential job of liberals in human societies is to enlarge our understanding of who belongs in our in-group. This is the plot of virtually all liberal advances.
Giving women the vote eighty years ago expanded the in-group from only adult males to include adult females. Once that larger definition was established by liberals, conservatives began defending that new definition of the in-group rather than the smaller one. Likewise, the civil rights movement was a way of saying that our in-group was also multi-colored. Every liberal advance adds to the list of those who belong within our society's protected group.
While society is a kind of slow dance between the conservative and liberal impulses, the liberal role is the more important one. It makes our societies humane rather than just stable and mean.
But for the liberal impulse to lead, liberals must remain in contact with the center of our territorial instinct and our need for a structure of responsibilities. Fundamentalist uprisings are a sign that the liberals have failed to provide an adequate and balanced vision, that they have not found a vision that attracts enough people to become stable.
Just as it's no coincidence that all fundamentalisms have similar agendas, it's also no coincidence that the most successful liberal advances tend to wrap their expanded definitions in what sound like conservative categories.
John F. Kennedy's most famous line sounds like the terrifying dictate of the world's most arrogant fascist: “Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.” Imagine that line coming from Hitler, Khomeini, Mullah Omar, or Jerry Falwell. It is a conservative, even a fascist, slogan. Yet Kennedy used it to effect significant liberal transformations in our society. Under that umbrella he created the Peace Corps and vista programs and through them enlisted many young people to extend our hand to those we had not before seen as belonging to our in-group.
Likewise, the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. used the rhetoric of a conservative vision to promote his liberal redefinition of the members of our in-group. When he defined all Americans as the children of God, those words could sound like the battle-cry of an American Taliban on the verge of putting a Bible in every school, a catechism in every legislature. Instead, King used that cry to include Americans of all colors in the sacred and protected group of “all God's children”—which was just what many white Southerners were arguing against forty years ago.
When liberal visions work, it's because they have kept one foot solidly in our deep territorial impulses with the other foot free to push the margin, to expand the definition of those who belong in “our” territory.
When liberal visions fail, it is often because they fail to achieve just this kind of balance between our conservative impulses and our liberal needs.
Over the past half century, many of our liberal visions have been too narrow, too self-absorbed, too unbalanced. This imbalance has been a key factor in triggering recent fundamentalist uprisings. When liberals don't lead well, others don't follow. And when society doesn't follow liberal visions, liberals haven't led.
When liberals burned the U.S. flag during the Vietnam War rather than waving it and insisting that America live up to its great tradition, they lost the most powerful territorial symbol in our culture and with it the ability to speak for our national interests. They created another moral imbalance by defining abortion in amoral terms, as simply a matter of individual rights—where only the mother, but not the developing baby, was an “individual.” And they did the same whenever they emphasized individual rights while neglecting the need to balance rights with individual responsibilities toward the larger society.
Fundamentalist uprisings are happening in some Muslim societies that hate the influence our culture is having on their own. But the uprising is happening within our own culture, too.
In Texas, where I live, the state has refused to grant the Ethical Society in Austin a church tax exemption because its members don't believe in God. The state maintains that defining God as a concept won't do, that to qualify as a church the society's members must believe in God as a being. The case has been through two appeals, and the state's attorneys have now taken it to the Texas Supreme Court. If the state wins, the ruling will affect every Unitarian Universalist church in the state—not to mention Buddhists, Taoists, and Hindus. Austin has the largest Hindu temple in North America, and Hindus are quite clear that Brahman is in no sense a being, and that all his personified images—as Krishna, Vishnu, Shiva, or the Divine Mother Durga and her manifestations—are all imaginative creations, not beings.
In cases like these the fundamentalists are reacting absolutely instinctively—whether they think they have instincts or not—to a threat to social stability made up of the narrow and unbalanced liberal teachings of the past three or four decades.
Maintaining both stability and civility, humane content and enduring form, in human societies is an unending dance between the conservative and the liberal impulses in human nature. The fundamentalist role in this dance is quite easy: All you have to do is cling tightly to a few simplistic teachings too small to do justice to the complex demands of the real world. You just have to cling to these, and then pretend that what you have done is honest and noble.
But the task of liberals is much, much harder. To be a liberal, to be an awake, responsive, and responsible liberal—that can take, and that can make, a whole life.
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The Future Was Yesterday said... Didn't Ingrid do a marvelous job with that post? Just wonderful!!
Take a gag pill and put on your asbestos britches before you Go Here.- WA: Ingrid did GREAT!! I am so glad to read that article and so thankful she posted it. Will check out your link forewith. :-) Gag pill taken and asbestos britches donned.
No, wait! Were Neanderthals human, though? Another coil. More wurra, wurra.
But only Homo Sapiens Sapiens is human - right? If so, Neanderthals weren't human, then. Right? Yet another coil. More and more wurra, wurra.
I see now. ONLY Homo Sapiens Sapiens is human and ONLY the Christian (Fundamentalist) God (as they envision Him) counts. All other concepts of any stripe are false and doomed to Hell on a greased downhill slide , doomed to extinction. Too bad about old Homo Sapiens Sapiens. Say hello to the dinos! Remind them that they should have believed in the Christian Fundamentalist God and they might have survived. But wait! They weren't human, though, not the supreme creation on earth! Just dumb animals. Only Homo S.S. is the finest creation, the masterpiece of God's work.
Right!
Gadfly here: What a load of crap! That chart looks like the meanderings of a diseased mind.
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